Mum rejects autistic daughter

26 Apr

A terribly sad story from Romania involving a teen autistic girl adopted at a young age and now seemingly rejected by the adopting family.

Mihaela Popa adopted the girl aged 18 months in 1999 but claims doctors failed to tell her she was suffering from the developmental disability. She has now asked a court to overturn the adoption so she can get rid of the teenager.

This poor young girl has also been abandoned by her own parents at birth and now faces a massively uncertain future.

Of course the reversal must happen – who would want that poor girl to be saddled with a parent who didn’t want her? – but this adopting ‘parent’ should not, in my opinion, escape this sordid episode without some form of censure. At the absolute least, one would hope she would be banned from ever being allowed to adopt again.

Some people simply don’t deserve to be parents.

14 Responses to “Mum rejects autistic daughter”

  1. navi April 26, 2010 at 16:21 #

    omg – so sad, as soon as the kid hits puberty, too. 😦 those times are hard for all kids, not just autistic ones..

  2. Stephanie Lynn Keil April 26, 2010 at 17:23 #

    “Some people simply don’t deserve to be parents.”


    And some people wouldn’t believe me when I tell them that this happens to disabled people, more often than you think, unfortunately.

  3. farmwifetwo April 26, 2010 at 17:34 #

    Parents fault, parents fault, parents fault… Since I have no idea about that family, that child, the services that the child can access in care vs at home…. I don’t see any point in casting stones.

    Parents put autistic children into care regularly and for a variety of reasons. Mostly b/c the level of care they require is more that the parents can supply, the danger that child may be to the other children in the family, the inability to pay for medications and other supports etc etc etc etc.

    Here in Ontario they are still battling btwn the parents and the Prov. The ombudsman did get a partial reprieve but the Prov had reverted to their view that any child in care becomes ward of the State after 12mths has passed…. no matter how long it takes those 12mths to happen in. Month this year, month next year etc.

    Must be nice to judge someone elses world based on your own… Personally I find it ignorant.

    • Sullivan April 26, 2010 at 20:12 #

      Dang, there goes another irony meter FW2.

  4. Clay April 26, 2010 at 18:00 #

    Yes, very sad about the teenager who has to be placed in an adoption home again, unwanted. Let’s hope that the child Mrs Popa has given birth to is everything that she expects of it.

  5. NightStorm April 26, 2010 at 20:16 #

    Must be nice to judge someone elses world based on your own…

    Hi I like you to meet my friend, perhaps you heard of him? His name is Kettle.

  6. Joeymom April 26, 2010 at 20:28 #

    Adoption is supposed to be for better or for worse. But it is a good thing that there are courts to turn to, so that hopefully this girl can be placed in a loving home that is willing to be a home for her, no matter how difficult.

  7. Kev April 26, 2010 at 21:16 #

    I’m going to say FW2 simply must be joking. I can’t believe anyone with an ounce of compassion could _not_ find this the mothers fault.

  8. Joseph April 26, 2010 at 21:37 #

    Parents fault, parents fault, parents fault…

    @FW2: So you think it might not be the parents’ fault that they decided to “return” their daughter. Are you being serious?

    What exactly do parents have to do before you consider it their fault? Murder? (Not necessarily, I suppose.)

  9. David N. Andrews M. Ed., C. P. S. E. April 26, 2010 at 22:02 #

    seems like FW2 doesn’t see anything wrong in treating a child like a bought commodity! shitting jesus – that’s fuckin’ raw, that is!

  10. NightStorm April 26, 2010 at 23:55 #

    What exactly do parents have to do before you consider it their fault? Murder?

    No FW2 will defend parents murdering their own disabled children too. Remember she speaks fluent “victim”.

  11. Patrick April 26, 2010 at 23:56 #

    This sounds similar to another story Sarah had blogged about:

    I would like to think that the countries involved in both these stories start getting health and social services working together a bit better in the interest of timely solutions.

  12. daedalus2u April 27, 2010 at 16:42 #

    I think it is xenophobia caused by the inability of these particular NT parents to perceive their child with autism as being fully “human” on an emotional level.

    This is the physiology behind the “better dead than autistic” sentiment of the curebies.

    It is so sad.

  13. Shanna April 28, 2010 at 14:28 #


    It is the parents fault. See most of us live in a world where the parents job is to love, protect, and provide for their children period. There are no conditions on that statement. You don’t get to give them back when they are difficult or cost too much or are not the perfect child you had envisioned. There is no reason that would make the mothers actions understandable. So I feel pretty comfortable in judging her. As I do judging your constant, woe is me attitude about autism.

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