This isn’t a book review.
This is the the unfolding story of some book reviews about Portia Iverson’s new book ‘Strange Son’.
Ms Iverson is a founder of CAN (Cure Autism Now) and wrote this book about her own son Dov and another autistic boy – Tito Mukhopadhyay. Here’s how an author I once had a great deal of respect for described this book:
Love introduced two mothers, one who lived in India and the other in the United States. Their passion to seek health for their children, both afflicted by autism, brought the two women across continents and over oceans. Each stimulated the other with her fervor to find medical breakthroughs. Their story is exciting and uplifting.
Amazingly (or not so in this day and age) the first customer review is written by Tito Mukhopadhyay, one of the ‘strange sons’ who was ‘afflicted by autism’. Here’s his review:
I am Tito Rajarshi Mukhopadhyay.
The book ‘Strange Son’ felt like a ‘slap’ on my face from someone who mother and I trusted the most.
Overstimulation and puberty stage can be difficult for many like me. But getting recorded in a way like that, ‘hurts more than my Autism’.
‘May the writer find whatever she seeks’.
By the way, I ‘hand-write’ and communicate/write my books (the Mind Tree, Gold of the Sunbeams, Beyond the Silence). Next year my new book (untitled) will be out, which will describe my sensory conditions in detail, so that other authors may be more equipped before writing about them as ‘observers’ if they watch the ‘show’.
Regards to one and all.
Tito Rajarshi Mukhopadhyay
Here’s a young man who patently feels that he was used, presumably as fodder for Ms Iverson’s publishing career.
Later on, in a separate review, Tito comments:
Honest from the author’s perspective. Perception is a tricky business. But some honesty hurts and Mutilates the trust forever.
Indeed. I would agree with Mr Mukhopadhyay that Ms Iverson’s perception of him is probably flawed and coming from her odd opinions regarding the nature of autism. The following is from a review by a Lisa Helt:
I can’t believe anyone could write such cruel things about any human being, much less a child with a disability. She uses the words, “beast-like”, “alien”, “possessed by a demon”, “like a wild beast”.
The next reviewer in this thread is Portia Iverson herself who says:
I never use the terms: “beast-like”, “alien”, “possessed by a demon” to describe my son in my book. This inaccurracy and others make it clear that this reviewer has not actually read the book.
What Iverson fails to note is that Ms Helt did not claim these comments were specifically about her own son, Dov. No, she reserved these words for the foreigner. And as Ms Helt points out, she certainly _did_ use them:
Actually, you did use these terms. On page 129,”When I left their apartment that day I felt as if I’d glimpsed into the mind of an alien being.”; Page 116, “‘Tired’ was hardly an apt explanation for the extraordinary scene we had been witnessing … where food was flying in every direction, accompanied by his odd grimacing sounds…”; Page 117, “I emailed Tito that same night and asked him why he behaved like that at the table, grabbing food and acting like a wild beast …”; Page 126, “He dashed through the house and raced toward the fridge, the first stop on the terrible circuit he could not break free of. He flung open the refrigerator door and wildly rifled through its contents… ‘You’ll never get a publisher with this kind of behavior!’ I commented in a low voice”; Page 127, “Now it seemed as if Tito were possessed by a demon.”;
As commenter Anne Bevington states later on:
An alien, a wild beast, possessed by a demon … the author was writing about Tito, not Dov. I’m sure Tito has brought in a lot of attention and money for the author’s organization, Cure Autism Now. This is the thanks he gets. The author owes Tito an apology, at the very least.
Another reviewer, Linda Lange comments:
One thing I’ve gathered from this book is that the author believes whole-heartedly that calling others strange (including her own son, and those with autism) is okay with her. However, she draws the line at others who question strange aspects of her story. Interesting phenomena which deserves contemplation, especially as it relates to the contrast of the journeys of those described in the book. Conversely, those who are being called strange in this book don’t seem to have much of a say on the matter. Truly, strangely upsetting.
Indeed. I can’t see myself shelling out money on this book.
There’s a number of lessons to be learnt from this. Number one, this is the age of the internet Ms Iverson, don’t expect to remain free of criticism from the subject matter of your books whom you have clearly offended and abused the trust of. Secondly, lying in retorts to reviews makes you look silly.
But thirdly, and most sadly of all, you will get away with it. Here’s a section of the review from one Barbara Fischkin:
As for those of us who are getting some flack for saying we want to “cure” autism and give autistic kids “souls”: Speaking for myself, not Iverson, I think this is the shorthand of busy mothers who do many other things. Curing a child does not mean you eradicate him or her. It means you take the best, and perhaps some of the worst, that he or she demonstrates as a human being, and help him or her to show that to the world in the form that is the most comfortable for that individual. My own son, now 19, would, I am convinced, prefer to speak instead of grunt his very strong opinions. He would prefer to waste less time worrying about his bodily functions and the inappropriate way in which they have a mind of their own. And yes, he would like his old soul back, the one that was killed….
Here we have the continuing example of a parent who believes that they can not only speak for, but unfailingly know the mind of, their autistic kids. Ms Fischkin cannot even take the trouble to look up and see Tito Mukhopadhyay’s thoughts on those who would presume to speak for him:
Perception is a tricky business. But some honesty hurts and Mutilates the trust forever.
Note that Fischkin believes her son’s soul is currently dead. Killed. This dehumanisation is a direct consequence of the thought processes outlined in Strange Son.
Update
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