Cool entry on another blog: Voices of Autism: a “lucky” mother’s perspective

17 Apr

Laura Shumaker is an author and also runs a blog on the San Francisco Chronicle website. I’ll admit, I haven’t read her book, “A regular guy, growing up with autism” yet. But every now and then someone sends me a link to her blog and I’ve liked what I’ve read.

In this piece, Voices of Autism: a “lucky” mother’s perspective, she let’s a guest blogger take the helm, Claire LaZebnik.

Claire talks about the progress her son made, from non-verbal to echolalic to mainstream with support to preparing for college.

It’s a nice piece, and well worth the minute or to to read.

She’s also had a piece in the New York Times, Adolescence, Without a Roadmap which I enjoyed and, I’ll admit, is what prompted me to write this piece linking to her work.

This section caught my eye:

“Hey, Mom?” he says as we’re walking out of a store. “That girl was hot.” He thinks he’s talking in a whisper but he isn’t, really, because he has voice modulation problems and has trouble hearing what his own voice sounds like. The lifeguard in the bikini at the beach is also “hot.” So is Jessica Alba, whose picture he printed and carefully glued onto his binder, next to a photo of Keira Knightley.

The term “hot” may be an affectation he picked up from his friends, but his appreciation of skinny girls with big breasts seems to be genuine, as we realized when we discovered he’d started using the Internet the way other teenage boys are likely to only when they think no one is watching.

We put content filters on our browser software, and his father sat down with him to go over some basic rules: Wait until you’re in love to have sex. Always wear a condom. Hide your pornography where your mother won’t find it. He’ll remember all this because they’re rules, and he’s very good at remembering rules.

Those links again, just in case:

Voices of Autism: a “lucky” mother’s perspective

and

Adolescence, Without a Roadmap

4 Responses to “Cool entry on another blog: Voices of Autism: a “lucky” mother’s perspective”

  1. livsparents April 17, 2010 at 03:58 #

    I was supposed to HIDE it? No wonder my mom was always checking my eyesight!

  2. Ullie April 17, 2010 at 14:02 #

    Kev, thank you for that link! My son has Asperger’s and will be going off to college this September. As usual, I am the one freaking out — he’s cool. What I wish I could say to Claire is “Try to worry less. Moms are not responsible for finding a girlfriend for their kids, on the spectrum or otherwise 🙂 It’s sometimes hard to see from the parent’s POV, but there ARE girls out there who fall in love quite on their own with boys who are loyal, honest, cute, and a little helpless!

  3. rose April 18, 2010 at 13:28 #

    Oh, dear…my own son has always had an appreciation of beautiful women.

  4. Laura Shumaker April 19, 2010 at 04:27 #

    Let me send you a copy of my book. Email me your address: lshumaker@pacbell.net

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